Good-bye, Bootie
Boutros Boutros Kitty came to
me one day at the tennis courts, a tiny handful of long black fur with a white
blaze on her chest and four matching boots.
I felt her watching me from the shrubs near my car, peeking between the
branches as I unloaded my tennis bag.
She was so tiny, so beautiful, and so friendly that I just knew she was
somebody’s much loved pet. I filled a
little pet with water and put it near her shrub in case she was thirsty. I felt certain she would go home before my
match was over.
The little cat was still in
the shrubs though, water was gone, so I refilled it then drove home and swiped
some cat food from my other three cat’s supply, drove back to the courts, and put
it in the bushes with her water. This
went on twice daily for over a week when finally my son Steven brought me to my
senses.
“Mom, let’s just bring the Court
Cat home. We have two cats; one more
won’t make much difference.”
We named her after the
Secretary-General of the United Nations, Boutros Boutros-Ghali and brought her
home, where we lived with a Rottweiler named Andy and a little Australian
Cattle Dog, Mary. Andi had reared Mary since puppyhood and they ruled our
house.
Jack, our elder cat, was a
feisty, opinionated calico. She and her silver-haired
offspring Smokey were there to greet this tiny kitten. Jack, the matriarch, demanded the same
respect from this youngster as she got from her offspring and from our two
dogs.
Smokey, with his long silver
hair and his laid-back-hippie ways, eyeballed the kitten from a distance, and
went back to sleep. He was nobody’s
boss.
In the end, Jack got little
respect from Boutros. Each time she chastised
Boutros and turned her back to make a regal exit, the kitten swatted Jack on
the rear end. Her Regal Self would stop,
turn and hiss at the kid and that was the end of the confrontation. This ritual was repeated until Jack made her
transition.
Jack and Smokey were content
with sheltering in the garage or sunning themselves on the cement of the rather
large and fenced side yard. At night though,
all cats slept in the garage safe from raccoons or skunks. They never dreamed of coming into the house
where dogs resided with people.
Boutros immediately established
her Superior Catness over our canines by leaping onto their haunches as they
squatted to take a wee. The dogs lived
their lives on the look out for the little black and white that terrorized them
from behind the flower pots, and the little cat shared the backyard with them.
In time, young Boutros
decided the front yard was her personal territory, taking on any dog who dared
to walk down our street. She was as beautiful
as she was a tough: this tiny cat challenged all dogs, stalking them if they
came too close to our property. She once
shredded an unsuspecting pit-bull’s nose.
She remained a dainty eight
pounds, and knowing she was gorgeous, seemed to pose in front of the vibrant
flowers we had in our front gardens. A visiting
artist painted a picture she took of Bootie and our flowers. The painting was hung in a gallery in San Francisco. I wish I knew where, it means so much to me
now.
1996 was the year when my son
moved out to live with his father, leaving me a note in the mail box and a
decade and half of grief. It was also
the year my daughter presented me with an unexpected grandson, a sweet and
loving little boy who never knew a day without Boutros.
It was also the year that I
finally agreed to step out onto the tennis courts “to just hit a little” with
my future husband, and the world of competitive sports revealed itself to me.
In retrospect 1996 was a year
that brought on some of the very best and worst times of my life. Perhaps we
just have to reach a certain age before the real and unpredictable heartbreakers
happen; have to reach a certain age to realize you are never too old to give
new challenges (like tennis) a go.
Time rolled on. I remarried; and
Andy, Jack and Smokey all lived nearly sixteen years before making their
transitions. My daughter and grandson moved out and began
to make their ways in the world; my son remained trapped somewhere where I
couldn’t seem reach him. I continued
nudging him with cards, notes and phone messages. Let him know that he remained in my heart and
that I would always love him.
When Rottweiler Andy passed,
my long time neighbor demanded get a new partner dog for little Mary. You see, my neighbor had been coming into our
backyard to sit with our little cattle dog while we worked. “Mel! Mary’s wasting away in grief! It’s not good for her, she gonna die if you
don’t get her a partner!”
So, my husband and I loaded
Mary into the car and took her with us to various shelters and “tried on”
possible partners. At a shelter in Berkeley we found a tall
black and white goofball with the impossible name of Mysticka. We brought her out to see how Mary reacted,
and to the shock of the shelter workers and us, the two dogs immediately sat down
butt to butt and leaned into each other.
They looked at us as if to say “Well, let’s go already!”
Mystica, now dubbed Bisbee
came home with us, and the two dogs doted on each other.
Bisbee gave all the garage
cats respect, and life settled in with everyone understanding boundaries.
Boutros claimed the entire front
yard as her realm, and policed it as any good black and white should. She chased away offending dogs, including the
before mentioned pit bull with the shredded nose. Our home was well guarded by our pets.
Little Boutros “Bootie”
outlived Jack, Smokey, Andy, Mary and Bisbee.
They all made their transitions in their sixteenth year. So it seems fitting that she too went at the
end of her sixteenth year.
But in her last six years she
found her own personal dog, a shelter dog named Lulu. Lulu is a Border Collie, a black and white
longhair just like Boutros, with the same blaze and feet. No doubt Bootie took
to Lulu because they were kin, wore the same tartan. Or, was it because Lulu had been raised with
cats and respected them? They became partners,
running shoulder to shoulder and chasing neighborhood cats from our back garden.
Bootie began using Lulu’s doggie
door, with great effort for a cat who never weighed more than eight pounds. I sometimes
found the two snoozing on my bed. They
sunned themselves in the back yard every day, but at night, Bootie always
wanted to go back to the garage, to the cave where cats slept.
She passed yesterday. We just weren't prepared, were not expecting a
trauma. It was a sorrowful accident
involving my grandson’s loveable dog Roscoe.
Nobody knows how or why he picked Bootie up, we only saw him walking
with her held gently in his mouth. She
was still alive, but had three punctures in her chest. We made the decision to let her pass on, be
euthanized. So, a few hours later she
was let go.
In 1970 I lived and worked in
San Francisco. Our flat was in the Outer Mission and my
husband, Larry, was in the Navy, based out of Alameda across the bay. We had a couple of cats, Angie and Barfie, and
when Larry was stationed on the east coast I stayed behind, kept my job so he
would process out and return to San Francisco, college and our future.
But someone knew I was alone
in that flat. And they knew we had an
expensive collection of records, recording system, turntable, speakers and
such. Thre times they broke our doors
down, cleaned our flat out. When I moved
out I could not bring our two kitties. I
took them to a pet store and the owner promised would try to keep them together
and find a home for them. I made the
mistake of turning around as I walked out the door. I saw their big eyes
pleading with me not to abandon them.
I left, hoping for the best
because I didn’t know what else to do.
Their eyes have haunted me
ever since, still bring grief to me. I am crying now recalling something that occurred
nearly a half century ago. I see and feel their terror, my grief, my
pain. They taught me a huge lesson. Animals are creatures of emotion as much as
any human. When they are disregarded
like a pair of dirty old socks they are wounded as deeply as any human child would
be.
Since then, my much loved pets
never leave their lives in the company of strangers, alone, in fear and harsh surroundings. I will be the last thing they see. They will feel my familiar arms and my lap;
hear my voice saying I love them. And their
last breath will catch the scent of me.
This is the least I can do
for all creatures that bring such joy. In
the end, grief is all about love. We are
fortunate to grieve. It is clear
evidence that we have known, created, and experienced Love.
Bootie, my little baby ratty
cat, you are the cat of my heart.
Thank you for all your devotion, your affection, and your trust.
And, little cat, show some
respect to Jack, okay?